I tore my ACL nine days ago playing basketball. And for all you silly gooses who say I’m too old to be playing basketball, I say phooey. My knee will require surgery (tomorrow). I appreciate your continued thoughts and prayers, especially for my wife Christine. Along with all that she regularly does, including writing curricula for multiple folks, she has been taking care of me. The first few days post injury, I relied on her for most everything. Right now, she’s shoveling snow out of our driveway. It’s taking a lot for me not to go out there to help. Our kids have been incredible as well. It has shown me what it means to serve others with a grateful heart.
Anytime I’m sick or hurt, I realize how hard it is to ask for help. I don’t know what it is about asking for help. Maybe it’s because I want to do it all by myself (something we heard from our three children constantly when they were younger). Maybe it’s because I don’t want to seem weak. Maybe it’s because I don’t want to inconvenience anyone – they have enough worries and concerns of their own, so we can handle it.
It’s interesting that, when the shoe is on the other foot, we beg folks who are ill or injured or in the hospital or in the midst of grief to let us help. For those who need help, it rarely is a terrible inconvenience to ask someone for a ride home from Sunday night youth so Christine doesn’t have to drive back to the church to get me (thank you Nurney family).
Why do we try to do it alone? I don’t recall that Jesus did. As I’m thinking about Lent and the next 40 days, I remember the story of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane. During his darkest hour, Jesus went to pray with three of his disciples, asking them “to remain, and stay awake with [Him]”. We are not meant to travel this journey alone. We gather together as a community of faith who, as part of my goal for our youth ministry reads, provides a safe space where we can share our laughter and our tears.
We so appreciate your continued thoughts and prayers. We so appreciate the offer for food and help, but we’re good. Just kidding. We’re grateful for you. Let us all commit to be willing to live out the words of the song Lean on Me:
Lean on me when you’re not strong.
And I’ll be your friend.
I’ll help you carry on.
For it won’t be long
Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on.